What happens when spiritual and physical mix together? Tantric sex. What does that even mean, you might ask. Sacred sexuality. Wanna know more about it? Well then, let’s hear Ray Maor, a spiritual mentor, give us tips and tricks for sexual tantra.
How can we start having tantric sex? Do we have to shave our heads, climb the holy mountain, reach a spiritual awakening, and acquire the secret knowledge of sexual tantra after passing tests of our egos? Well, actually no. With the eastern wisdom merging into the western world, we now have access to this beautiful practice; and let me tell you, beautiful it really is. However, if you are just interested in fucking, skip this post, and check out something else. But, hey, come on, give love-making a chance.
Tantric sex is about not focusing on the end result. But, instead, placing your focus on the path and enjoying it with your partner. I have to refer back to the mountain-climbing. Do you climb the mountain to summit, or do you climb it to enjoy the road, the very present? Tantra makes sex a spiritual ritual of connectedness – a sacred act that brings two energies together. Think about it like a ritual. You prep for it mentally, lighting candles, smells, creating a pleasant atmosphere for you and your partner.
The next thing you need to understand is that orgasm and ejaculation are two different things. There is an involuntary muscle that with practice men can make voluntary. And, the more they are able to control this muscle, the longer their orgasms last. Neat, eh? You can reach an orgasm without ejaculating at all, and by doing so, you retain your sexual energy – meaning, you can have sex soon after the orgasm without the tiredness that follows the ejaculation process.
So, what are the tools to control this? Ray teaches us two tricks.
1) The million dollar point, located underneath the testicles. When you press this point, you are actually stopping the sperm from coming out. As you are reaching an orgasm, start pressing it strongly with your fingers and don’t let go for at least 15 to 20 seconds.
2) Learning how to control the muscle you use when you urinate. You can practice controlling it by stopping when the stream is at its maximum current. Hold it briefly, then let go and continue. Then stop again, and let go again. This is the muscle you cannot control during an orgasm that creates ejaculation. But, with practice, anything is possible.
During an intercourse go up to 80% of your orgasm. When you feel you are getting there, use the above-mentioned muscle to stop. Imagine that you are breathing the energy and moving it from the lowest chakra upwards toward your head. Just imagine it and breathe. You will see that it all comes together. You are holding that muscle, and pushing it up. And, you will feel that the sexual energy is not concentrated only on that organ. It’s spreading everywhere.
Sexual tantra is not just some 15-minute average sex. It takes much more. It can take half an hour, sometimes hours. If you are interested in controlling your orgasm and getting the best out of it, and your partner supports it, then why the hell not? Go ahead, experiment with it, and have fun!
Check out the video below for detailed instructions: