Adina Rivers of MyTinySecrets talks about sex tips for the best orgasm ever. Adina’s #1 secret for a mind-blowing orgasm is edging, and in case you are left wondering, let us elaborate. Edging is a sexual technique where you maintain a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching climax. Other words for it are orgasm control, peaking, and surfing. Edging is something everybody can do, so get off your sorry ass and stop looking for excuses.
The great thing about edging is that it charges your entire being with intense sexual energy. It’s like a prolonged orgasm that keeps on going throughout your whole body and does not last. Mastering the art of edging can help guys last longer; and the longer you last, the more chances of her climaxing for sure. And, trust me, gentlemen, you DO want ladies to come before if not together with you. Never leave a lady hanging. But, back to edging, which when done correctly, can feel like floating in the universe.
Adina shares with us how she does edging, but note that we are all different, so some might need a different approach. Use this method as a basic guideline to build and improvise from.
Relax yourself, and create a relaxing environment for the two of you (or more, if you’re into that sorta thing). Take it slow. Allow things to progress naturally. Gently caress your partner all over their body.
Let the arousal build up. At the high peak of arousal, gently stop the stimulation to avoid climaxing. Switch to another body part. Breathe slowly and deeply. Move the sexual energy up with hands. The pause allows the energy to expand.
Once you have cooled down, begin again. Go back to stimulating yourself and edge 3-4 more times. Let totally loose when you finally orgasm.
After the orgasm, go into stillness. Feel and enjoy the sensations in your body. Meditate with this sexual energy.
You can practice this with your partner or by yourself. Just remember to have fun!
Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!
A relationship expert Alexandra Potora gives us tips on how to realistically spice up our sex life. She mentions the word realistically because some of us don’t have hours in the day to dedicate to lovemaking with our busy schedules. So, this is for all of you busy bees out there. Taking care of your family and work is great, but be sure to not neglect your sex life. One, sex is important to keep your relationship alive, and two, it is proven to have healing properties.
#1 Speak Up
Be vocal about what you like to your partner. Most of us are not mind-readers, so it’s important to let them know about your preferences, and ask for it. The more you communicate with each other, the better your sex life is going to be. Never feel afraid or ashamed of sharing your fantasies. You are in this together, so establishing a safe space for you to be open about your desires is a must in every healthy relationship. Once you let them know what gets your fire going, find out what they like and want.
Three questions you can ask are:
What do you like?
What’s your favorite position?
What would you like to try next time?
#2 Switch It Up
Try different locations. Having sex in bed all the time can get boring, so why not get creative with locations in your house? Some of these spots could be kitchen counters, in the shower, on the bathroom vanity, on the floor in the living room and other rooms, chairs, tables, couches, in the laundry room, on the stairs, etc. There are so many places in your house you could have sex. Just make sure you have privacy, and nobody’s going to walk in on you. But, if you are into exhibitionism, then I’m just going to go silent here.
This tip is for ladies out there. What are you wearing in the evenings? Yes, PJs and sweatpants are super comfy, but wearing something sexy for your heartthrob works wonders. This is not to say you have to be walking around in lingerie. It IS possible to look sexy and also be comfortable. Something with long lace sleeves could be an option. Also, something with a deep V-neck that brings out the breasts or a man’s button-up shirt that’s buttoned only half-way. Find options that make you feel comfortable, and at the same time bring out your assets.
Another tip in here would be to choose the color red. Culturally and universally, red is associated with love and passion. In a report from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, men were more likely to say they wanted to have sex with a woman if she was wearing red.
#4 Laugh Before Bed
Watch a funny show or a movie before calling it a night. Laughing gets your blood pumping, and increases your heart rate, which can help enhance your sexual experience. Besides, it can also work for getting both of you to relax and bond. Laughing helps you get rid of stress. So, why the hell not? Snuggling together and watching something hilariously entertaining that brings your spirits up is always a good thing to do.
#5 Seven-Position Challenge
Over the next thirty days, starting today, implement seven different positions in your sex life that you either haven’t done before or haven’t done in awhile. If you go to Alexandra’s website, you can find an image with multiple sex positions, or you can also check out the post about Kama Sutra sex positions for something extra to walk away with tonight. Talk to your partner about this, show them what you’d like to try and get adventurous with your horizontal tangos.
#6 Morning Sex
Dr. Debby Herbenick, who is a research scientist and sex advice columnist, said that having sex in the morning releases oxytocin, also known as the feel-good chemical, and that makes couples feel loved and bonded all day long. Morning sex is good for your health, overall mood and relationship dynamic, while for men, morning sex also helps them last longer and have more energy, since testosterone levels peak overnight. But, don’t just blindly follow the studies, because we are all different and some might be in the mood for sex during mornings, while others might feel the sexiest during the dark hours.
Keep communicating and experimenting, my friends, and until next time!
Have you ever wondered if you should sleep with the person on your first date? Do you do it? Do you not? Is it the need to score, or the fear of rejection that’s driving you? Is it the need to feel wanted? Or, are you seized by a genuine desire to connect with that person? Are you following your heart?
Intimacy expert Allana Pratt of Digital Romance TV talks about first date sex.
New research conducted by the datingadvice.com has found that 74% of men were more likely than women to date someone after having sex on their first date. Interesting, isn’t it? You would expect men to be the womanizers, and women to be the heartbroken victims of Lotharios’ games. But, don’t fall for stereotypes and preconceived notions.
Let’s get a little personal in here, and have a heart-to-heart talk. What are your dating choices? Ponder it for a moment. Have you ever felt like you need to have your void filled after a long period of being single? Is it the emptiness that needs curbing with a sexual act?
Think the drink through until the end.
When you are on that first date, are you empty or full? Are you coming from a place of clarity and confidence, or are you indeed meeting them to make yourself feel complete?
What’s your motivation for wanting to have sex on your first date? Is it to the desire to triumph over something and feel enough? Is it the fear of rejection or abandonment that’s rushing you into it?
Now, consider this.
What would it take you to go out on a date where you are so confident and full that sex is a choice not influenced by the wrong reasons?
Imagine yourself truly being present with that person. You check in with your body, your heart, your soul, and you decide whether sex with them on your first or tenth date is what will make you feel more expansive.
Closely listen to your heart and let it answer the following questions:
Does sleeping with this person expand your life?
Does sleeping with this person honor you?
Will it be fun?
Will it be safe?
Will it be a contribution to your life?
Will they be grateful for you?
This is not to talk you out of enjoying sex on your dates, first or not. This is to awaken your connection with your heart, and let your authentic self come forth and make decisions.
Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!
An intimacy expert Allana Pratt gives us a breakdown on 3 things women wish men did in bed. In case you are curious about Allana’s credibility, let me disclose that she is an author of three books, a coach to celebrities, and has been featured on CBS, TLC, FOX and more. Now that you are convinced of her professionalism, keep on reading, or check out the video below.
#1 Eye Contact
It’s not possible to constantly maintain eye contact with your partner during sex, and quite frankly, it would be weird if you did. However, if you lose yourself in body parts of your woman for too long and don’t return to the windows to her soul, the disconnect commences. You want her to feel like a work of art, not a piece of meat. Be sure to make eye contact when you make love to her. If she closes her eyes, ask her to open them, and be more connected to you. There’s an exquisite place of a whole new dimension when you are truly present with one another.
#2 Stay With Her
We’re not talking about relationships. If it’s not working out, by all means, find the mature and amicable way to end it. What we’re talking about is staying with her during her sexual experience no matter what. Let her journey into the ocean of Eros be okay and judgment-free. Be the banks of the river, if she cries, if she screams, if she gets naughtier than usual or dominates you. Come what may, and let her unleash her inner Goddess. Hold onto your open-mindedness and nonjudgmental stateliness, creating a safe space for her to open up and let her erotic creature show. Letting it flow and diving into the mystery is what make lovemaking deliciously unforgettable.
#3 Stay Open
Do not assume that if you both have reached your orgasm, it’s time to sign off. Be open to the fact that there is more to come after you have climaxed. Stay connected with her, even if you can’t have an erection again. That’s totally normal. Being connected with her is what matters. Be there for her, if she wants to have more orgasms, or just talk and fade into you and your world. What helps with this is giving her that sensual energy throughout the day, outside the bedroom. Doing things like letting your hand slowly slide down her back, gently brushing away her hair, nuzzling into her neck and saying how amazing it was last night or this morning. Extend that lustful energy outside sex, so that the entire relationship becomes a sensual dance that keeps the fire going.
Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!
In this episode of alpha m. Aaron Marino talks about sex and gives top 10 tips for getting freaky. Aaron has around 3 million subscribers on his YouTube channel. He has been giving men advice professionally in regards to their image, style, and grooming for over ten years, and has been featured on numerous major networks, such as ABC, NBC, MTV, etc. If you want a good source for getting valuable advice on becoming a more confident man, check out his channel. It’s definitely worth your time.
#1 Don’t listen to morons.
Anybody who tries to make you feel ashamed of your body, ashamed of sex, ashamed of the fact that you want sex, are to be avoided at all costs! You don’t want to surround yourself with people that might damage your self-esteem. Wanting sex is natural. Nobody has a right to tell you with whom you want to get naughty… well, as long as you are not into animals or minors because those are SERIOUS no-nos! Other than that, go forth and fornicate, gentlemen!
#2 Explore your sexuality.
Figure out what you like and what you don’t like. And, don’t feel bad or ashamed about expressing your desires to your lover. Moreover, it’s good to know that sexual orientation can be fluid in some, so keep an open mind to things and explore. Give your body what it wants, as long as you are not harming anyone. Embrace your inner freak, and have fun with it.
#3 Don’t be ashamed of waiting.
It’s okay to wait for the right person and the right time. The first time is indeed sacred and special, so be sure the person you are giving your virginity to is deserving of it.
#4 Be safe.
This can never be stressed enough. Make sure you always protect yourself. There are a lot of STDs out there, some of which can be cured, while others are capable of killing you. So, no matter how horny you might be for someone, if there’s no condom around, keep it in!
#5 Don’t be a slut.
Banging a bunch of chicks does not make you a stud. It makes you a slut. Things have gotten way out of hand with Tinder and similar dating apps. Casual sex is not something to pursue to feel good about yourself. Don’t feel you need to compete with anybody.
#6 Sex is best with somebody you care about.
This is self-explanatory, so let’s go straight to…
#7 Respect yourself.
Don’t do things that are going to get you in trouble. If there is something that you don’t feel like doing, don’t do it! Don’t let anybody pressure you into anything. Respect yourself enough not to have sex, if at that moment it does not feel right in your heart.
#8 Explore your body.
Do you like bondage? Go ahead! Do you want to be the one tied or the one giving the spanking? By all means, have fun with it. Just make sure you and the other person are both into it before you get freaky.
#9 Have fun and keep it fresh.
Routine is the biggest killer of sex. Don’t have like certain days set for love-making. That just takes all the fun and excitement out of the act. She wants you to be spontaneous, she wants you to be naughty, she wants you to be passionate!
#10 Understand that pornography is not reality.
And, if you want to explore more of your freaky side, you can go to www.adameve.com and use Aaron’s discount code, found in his video below.
Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!
The YouTube channel of Men’s Health magazine posts a video about the man’s guide to kinky sex, and of course, we had to check it out.
Now, you might have heard about BDSM and S&M, but note that doing bondage does not necessarily involve tying up your partner or spanking them with a paddle. I mean, you can, if you want to. But, there are numerous levels of bondage you can try. This can be done by purely taking on a submissive role while your partner is the dominant one. For more on this, check out the post about bondage for beginners.
Stilettos are known to be a symbol of feminine power. So, if you are into feminine dominance, pick out the hottest pair in her closet or better yet, get a new sexy pair for her to wear during sex.
This stands for seeking sexual gratification by looking at sexual acts, erotic pictures, etc. You can ask your partner if they are into watching porn with you and getting off on it. And, who knows, what will happen? It might lead to you both getting down and dirty.
#4 Butt Play
If you want to explore her backside, try positions like doggy style. And, if she is cool with it, give that booty a slap. For more about booty spanking sex, click here.
Some people are into feet because attending to them is an act of humility. This can be a turn-on for some guys. If interested, offer your partner a foot massage, and once done with it, slide your hands up her legs…
The risk of getting caught makes everything hotter, don’t you think? And, the idea of being seen makes her desired. Start foreplay on a cab ride home, and leave your lights on and curtains open when you get there… unless you want to get more kinky with it, but proceed at your own risk.
Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!
Amelia McDonell-Parry of Funny Girl Sex Guide talks about the things women want in bed but are too afraid to ask. We’ve lived in a society where women have not really been vocal about sex. I mean, come on, if a sex is on a woman’s mind, she is labeled as a slut, while a man who is actively engaged in the activity, is called a womanizer.
Studies have shown that women are not less physically interested in sex than men. So, let’s just throw our conditioning and stereotypes out the window. As we are stepping into a new era, women are becoming more open and confident to express themselves sexually; but some still remain shy. Communication is the key to help her open up to you and let her naughty show. Let’s check out what tips Amelia has to share about this.
Eat her out more often.
Compliment her vagina so that she knows that you are enjoying the cunnilingus, urging her to relax for you. It’s good to say things like “your pussy tastes so good, I love licking it.” Be enthusiastic. If you care about receiving a good oral, give a good oral.
She wants to be spanked.
A light spanking is good to play with dominant and submissive roles. But first, make sure that’s what she is into. While you’re making out, touch her butt, squeeze it. If she likes you groping her ass, whisper in her ear “can I give you a little spank?” If she says yes, do it once softly and see how she reacts. Then ask again “did you like that?”
Asking her for direction in bed can be very sexy. Say things like “tell me what you want, baby, it turns me on to hear you say it.”
She wants to be dominated.
Domination includes a lot of things, some of which might be of interest to her, and some of which may not. You can never assume that because she likes her ass smacked, she would enjoy being paddled on all fours with a gag in her mouth or something. Trust and communication are essential for both of you to feel comfortable.
Start simple, ask her things like “would you like it if I blindfolded you the next time I go down on you?” If she likes that, next time ask her if you could tie her wrists to the bedpost. And, if she thinks that was awesome, keep trying other stuff.
Make sure you always check in with her verbally, pay attention to her body language and her vocal responses. Also, it’s a good idea to have a safe word, something she could say to have you stop immediately.
Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!
Adina Rivers, the founder of MyTinySecrets, talks about threesome sex, and gives us 6 tips on how to make the experience “unforgettable”. First off, she starts with how threesomes are like unicorns – unique and breathtaking, which can elevate your spirit. But, if not done correctly, it can pretty much ruin relationships.
So, are you interested in broadening your horizons and experimenting a little? Well, make sure you approach this with mindfulness and sensitivity. Note that a threesome can happen between all sorts of genders. The most important thing is to stay open. Making love to more than one person is prone to create a powerful sexual energy. And, sexual energy sparks life-force, productivity, and creativity.
1) The Right Mindset. For starters, figure out why you think you might want to have a threesome if you are already in a relationship. Get still, Adina suggests. Stillness has the power to bring out what’s true for yourself, and I could not agree more. If there are any unresolved issues in your relationship, chances are they will surface during a threesome. Make sure the bond with your partner is secure and you two are on the same wavelength before you dive into the unknown.
2) Prepare Your Partner. Start talking about your fantasies with your partner, and see how they react. Take it easy. You don’t have to go all the way in on your first attempt. You can start with simply making out with the said unicorn. Then, check in with your partner to see how they feel about it. If all is good and you are both genuinely enjoying the process, go ahead and get deeper with it.
If you are unsure whether you want to try it, though, ask yourself these questions:
a) can you do this or think about it when you’re not horny?
b) do both of you talk about having threesome sex or is it just one of you?
3) Find The Right Unicorn. When looking for a person to join you on your sexcapade, make sure you both are attracted to them, and they are attracted to both of you. They must be willing to do this with no strings attached. And, they should definitely be sane enough to not wreak havoc on your relationship. There’s no need to rush into anything, unless you are up for a roller-coaster ride.
4) Set Boundaries And Rules. Prior to embarking on this adventure, talk about what is on and off the table. Is kissing okay? Is intercourse okay? Talk with each other, and if there’s anything important, let the unicorn know as well. Stay true to yourself, and respect your partner’s and the unicorn’s feelings.
5) Safety First. Discuss sexual history and practice safe sex. Don’t ever feel embarrassed to ask what you need to know before engaging in a sex with someone. For the shy ones out there, you can use the app called “Healthvana”. It uses your lab tests to track your health, which you can share with others.
6) Be Present. This goes for all things in life. The more open and in the moment you are, the more you’ll enjoy the experience. The more present you are, the higher your sexual energy will be. Don’t overthink it and let it all flow naturally. Breathe. Breathe. And, again – breathe.
Do you have trouble lasting long in bed? Does your partner complain about you finishing before her? Tantra, sex and relationship expert Psalm Isadora gives us tips on how to fix this issue with what she calls the dick gym.
Psalm is the founder of the global sex coaching program Urban Kama Sutra – the only home-study program that teaches the ancient tantric secrets. She has appeared as a featured sex expert on CNN, Buzzfeed, Playboy, Dr. Drew, and many more. You can find certified tantra coaches on her website.
Back to the topic at hand – one of the ways you can increase your stamina in bed is by building up your testosterone. The more testosterone, the more virility and sexual appetite you have. You might be thinking, how the hell do I boost my testosterone when T levels naturally decline with age?! The answer is simple – work out.
There are numerous testosterone building workouts available online, if you want to get in depth with it. But, first, let’s start with the basics. You can increase lower body strength with deadlifts, hip thrusts, squats. Over time you will see how much stamina you have in bed, and all those hip thrusting movements prep you for long love-making sessions. Who would not enjoy that?!
Another thing you can do is increase cardiovascular capacity by doing high-intensity interval training. An example of cardio HIIT workout would be doing sprints for 30 seconds on a treadmill and then going at a slower pace for 90 seconds. Then going 30 seconds as fast as you can and going slow again for 90 seconds. Doing this for 20 minutes will start to build up your cardio.
Another important thing is mental game. You have to go in this, feeling confident and persistent about your decision. You want to make sure it lasts longer and that she is also having a good time. Nothing is worse than being the only one satisfied after sex – that is if you want to maintain your relationship, okay? Have the willpower that you are going to give her more pleasure and your body will respond to the willpower of your mind.
Another thing you can do is edging, peaking. You masturbate to the brink of an orgasm, and then you slow down, relax, breathe until you are ready to repeat the same technique. This teaches you how to maintain a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching an orgasm – hence, lasting longer in bed.
Speaking of masturbation, if you like to do that, by all means, go ahead. But, if you can’t get hard for her later, save it for your partner. Either don’t masturbate, or masturbate and don’t ejaculate. Make sure you always help her finish too. Things happen and no matter how hard we try, you might be the first one to come, but UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES leave her hanging.
Give her oral sex, or finish her with your fingers. You gotta make sure your woman orgasms when you two are having sex. Even if she might say that it’s ok, trust me, it’s NOT OKAY, and the resentment builds, which then leads to breakups. So, don’t leave her hanging. Make sure you both have fun and have orgasmed after a good horizontal tango.
In this episode of ThinkTank, Hannah Cranston interviews America’s renowned sex expert and the author of “Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight” Emily Morse. Emily herself hosts an award-winning podcast, that has been up and running since 2005, downloaded around 40 million times, and named as one of the Top 12 Sex Podcasts by Esquire Magazine. There is so much hype about Emily that I was very intrigued to find out what top five tips she had for those of us interested in enriching our sex lives.
First and foremost, she talks about the importance of communication. She likes to say “communication is lubrication.” The more comfortable you are talking about sex with your partner, the better your sex is going to be. It’s unfair to expect of your partner to know what you like without telling them about your needs and wants. Try to figure out what you like and explain that to your partner.
The second advice she gives is foreplay. She mentions how it’s a requirement, and not a light suggestion. While men get turned on fast, women take longer to get aroused. It is then that Hannah asks her about the recommended time for a foreplay, to which Emily answers with a study that had an average time of foreplay at about 18 minutes. Slow it down, she says.
What happens next once you are in the sheets? Kissing and making out, Emily reiterates. She mentions how kissing is one of the first few things that disappear in long-term relationships. So, it’s important to take things slow, make out for awhile, slowly undress.
Next, she talks about the importance of lubrication. According to the study at Kinsey Institute, that has been doing sex research since 1947, 80% of women who used a few drops of lube were more likely to orgasm. But, it’s very important what lube you buy. If you don’t understand the ingredients in it, you would not want to put that inside of you. She recommends System JO® lubricant.
The last advice she gives in this episode for heterosexual couples, interested in incorporating toys in their sex life, is getting a penis ring with a small vibrator. Vibration feels great to men, and clitoral stimulation brings women closer to orgasm. According to studies only 30% of women orgasm during intercourse, and that’s because they don’t get enough clitoral stimulation. She recommends We-Vibe by Tango for that. And, with the penis ring and the mini-vibe couples are good to go.