YouTube’s famous sexpert and “the Headmistress of Pleasure”, as seen in Women’s Health Magazine, Layla Martin talks about 6 unforgettably electric kissing moves. Layla has studied sexuality at Stanford University as well as in Asia with Tantric masters, and has been featured on the Huffington Post, CBS, Playboy, etc.
First of all, let’s do a quick rundown of what not to do when locking lips with your partner.
- Avoid kissing them too hard, too aggressively or too stiffly.
- Do not shove your tongue down their throat, meaning, be moderate with your tongue use.
- Too little tongue can also be annoying. Make sure you’ve had a mint beforehand, though.
- A kiss that is too rushed takes sensuality out of the act, and kills the mood.
Now that we’ve covered what not to do, let’s get into the useful tips for electric kissing.
Tip #1 Make The Kiss The Destination
Instead of kissing being a means to an end, or a way of getting your partner into something more intense, let the kiss be the only thing happening. That way you are in the moment with it, and fully present.
Tip #2 Develop Lip and Tongue Sensitivity
If you bring total awareness to all the sensations on your lips and your tongue, you can really expand the sensitivity there. And, the more open and sensitive you are to the sensations, the more you’ll enjoy it.
Tip #3 Build a Rhythm
Notice a wave of energy that is starting to form between the two of you. Let your lips and your tongues move together in accordance with each other. Let them dance together in harmonious rhythm, as though your mouths are making love with one another.
Tip #4 Use Your Hands
Let your hands slide through your partner’s hair, over their neck, shoulders, back, wherever it feels natural. Let your hands be passionate, firm, and confident. Don’t let them flop around or meander. Really be as much in your hands as you are in your kiss.
Tip #5 Slow Down
Slowing down helps you and your partner drop into the moment. On top of sensitizing the kiss, it gives time for the chemistry and the emotion between you two to be built and felt.
Tip #6 Put on an Amazing Track
You can use music, either a track or a playlist, to put you in the right mood. If you learn to use music, you can actually make out to its rhythm, and go on a journey together that transports you through time and space.
Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!