Let’s get a little cerebral in here, and talk about sexting. As Adina Rivers likes to call it – a foreplay before the actual foreplay. A little recap on Adina; she is the founder of MyTinySecrets – a renowned channel on YouTube that gives advice on sex, love and life. She has almost one million subscribers, so clearly her content is highly appreciated and sought after. Now that we have that out of the way, let’s get back to the guide for naughty texts.
As you might already know, the brain is our largest erogenous zone. When you can mentally connect with your partner and turn them on from a distance, all that buildup and anticipation is going to make your sex mind-blowing once you two get under the sheets. The sexting itself can be very tantalizing if done correctly. Some like to masturbate in the process, while others simply enjoy the mental stimulation. Do whatever floats your boat. Just make sure you both are into it and getting the best out of the experience.
Start out slow.
The first tip Adina gives is to start out slow and be subtle. Don’t go straight into telling them that you want to fuck them. It does not sound appealing. Write things like “I can’t stop thinking about you. I would so love to feel your soft lips now on mine”. This gives them a hint that you are all hot and bothered, and if they reciprocate, follow up with something juicier.
Be a little bit of a tease.
Writing them things like “If only you could see what I am wearing now… it’s like a breath of nothing.” Get creative with your texts, and let your feelings take a form of words. Speak your truth and don’t get cheesy with it. Try to create some mystery. Your lover should have to use imagination to fill in some blanks.
Trigger sensual memories.
Reminding them of your sexy memories together is a good way to arouse them.
Give plenty of feedback.
Whether you like something your partner is saying or you don’t, tell them. Positive reinforcement can be just the encouragement your sexting partner needs to keep it coming.
Do a sext strip-tease.
Instead of full-on crotch shots, send them something visually suggestive. Before you send them anything, though, make sure you completely trust that person. If you do decide to send them a naked picture, the best is to not include your face. You don’t want to be one of those scary stories about leaked photos.
Don’t sext too soon.
You make yourself more mysterious and interesting, if you give your partner something to look forward to. If you are too horny, tame it down a little. You can talk naughty and flirty, but don’t get too dirty too soon. Some say don’t sext if you’ve never sexed. There might be some exceptions, but it’s important to be cautious who you share your thoughts and pictures with.
Learn how to write a sext.
Do not use emojis. If you want to sound like a sexually developed grownup, talk the talk. Keep it real. Do not say something you don’t plan to do in real life. Always stay true to your heart, body, and feelings.
Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!