In the bedroom, communication is extremely important. There are different kinds of communication that take place in the bedroom. One of which is talking dirty. Talking dirty is a great way to spice things up. Kara Sutra covers the basics.
When a woman says “harder” in bed, she means just that. Not faster or deeper. Harder. Whatever you are doing, keep doing it, but HARDER. Got it?
When she says go “deeper” this also does not mean faster or harder. Push deeper with the same rhythm as before. “Faster” means FASTER. Not deeper or harder. Just faster. Glad we got that out of the way.
“Faster” means FASTER. Not deeper or harder. Just faster. Glad we got that out of the way.
All Kara wants you to understand is that it is important that you are telling you partner exactly what you want and, in turn, that they are completely understanding you.
Now when it comes to talking dirty, there are some that wonder, what the hell am I actually supposed to be saying? There are basic phrases to incorporate.
“That feels so good”
“I love the way that feels/the way you feel inside me”
“Please do more of that”
Now, these aren’t to be whipped out of nowhere. Kara encourages you to say what you are feeling. If it feels good, tell them how good it feels. If there is something you want them to do, tell them you want it done.
Once you get more comfortable with talking during sex, you can start asking questions.
“Do you like that?”
“Do you like when I do this?”
That then provides an opportunity for your partner to talk as well by answering you. If you are on the receiving end of these questions, don’t respond with a bland yes or no. Get into it! If you absolutely love what they are doing, say that!
When you get more comfortable with talking dirty, you can start incorporating more perverse content and obscenities.
“I love it when you f*ck me like that”
“I love the feeling of your c*ck inside me”
However, unless you have communicated what is okay to say and not say beforehand, take it easy on the name calling. You don’t want to call your partner a name that might shut down the whole evening. Insulting your partner is not the aim of dirty talk. Kara recommends having that talk and drawing the line so that it is not accidentally crossed in the throes of passion.
Dirty talk also happens in the form of “Sexting”. Again, some people have no idea what to say when they receive these texts from their partner. Most of the time they are just afraid of saying something stupid and embarrassing themselves. Kara recommends just playing along. Match their dirty text with one of your own. Say whatever you want to say.