Do you get home exhausted from work? Drained? Feeling numb and completely turned off? Well, worry not. We’ve got you covered. Layla Martin, one of the renowned sexperts of YouTube, talks foreplay for sensitive sexual experiences. How can we support our partner when the stress of the daily grind takes their mind off your sex life? The trick is to master foreplay – a gateway to the unity of souls.
In this episode, Layla talks about the type of foreplay that is not about pushing us toward sex. It’s about inviting your partner to awaken their five senses, and if lovemaking follows, by all means, enjoy it. Rest assured sex is amazing when you invest this much time in a foreplay. Remove the intention of sex, and take your time. Savor each second of being with your partner, each second of giving them love, and each second of them receiving your love.
First and foremost, make your space sensually beautiful. For this, you will need to get:
- the right lighting
- the right scents
- the right music
- something soft for your partner to lie on.
Have your partner either wear a blindfold or close their eyes, and offer them a total sensual activation. What this means is that you are inviting them to experience each of their five senses in a heightened state of awareness.
Start with slow, sensual strokes across their body. You can use tools like feathers or fake furs to gently slide over their skin.
Put different essential oils on your body and let your partner smell your neck, your wrist, etc.
Tease them with a delicious assortment of fruits, sweets, whatever your partner loves, and then gently kiss them on the lips.
Turn on relaxing music. You can also whisper into their ear, let them know what you love about them, things that you find beautiful, things that you are grateful for, etc.
As the last step, remove the blindfold if you used it, or let them open their eyes. At this point you can move in to lovemaking, or the ritual may feel complete. Either way is totally fine. Let your heart take the lead.
You can prep your partner for this by texting them in advance, letting them know exactly what you are going to do to them when they get home. And, make sure you get all the items together:
- a blindfold
- delicious foods
- incense or scented candles
- essential oils
- something tactile such as a feather to awaken their sense of touch.
May you have an epic sex, legendary love, and exquisitely sensitive foreplay!