In this episode of ThinkTank, Hannah Cranston interviews America’s renowned sex expert and the author of “Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight” Emily Morse. Emily herself hosts an award-winning podcast, that has been up and running since 2005, downloaded around 40 million times, and named as one of the Top 12 Sex Podcasts by Esquire Magazine. There is so much hype about Emily that I was very intrigued to find out what top five tips she had for those of us interested in enriching our sex lives.
First and foremost, she talks about the importance of communication. She likes to say “communication is lubrication.” The more comfortable you are talking about sex with your partner, the better your sex is going to be. It’s unfair to expect of your partner to know what you like without telling them about your needs and wants. Try to figure out what you like and explain that to your partner.
The second advice she gives is foreplay. She mentions how it’s a requirement, and not a light suggestion. While men get turned on fast, women take longer to get aroused. It is then that Hannah asks her about the recommended time for a foreplay, to which Emily answers with a study that had an average time of foreplay at about 18 minutes. Slow it down, she says.
What happens next once you are in the sheets? Kissing and making out, Emily reiterates. She mentions how kissing is one of the first few things that disappear in long-term relationships. So, it’s important to take things slow, make out for awhile, slowly undress.
Next, she talks about the importance of lubrication. According to the study at Kinsey Institute, that has been doing sex research since 1947, 80% of women who used a few drops of lube were more likely to orgasm. But, it’s very important what lube you buy. If you don’t understand the ingredients in it, you would not want to put that inside of you. She recommends System JO® lubricant.
The last advice she gives in this episode for heterosexual couples, interested in incorporating toys in their sex life, is getting a penis ring with a small vibrator. Vibration feels great to men, and clitoral stimulation brings women closer to orgasm. According to studies only 30% of women orgasm during intercourse, and that’s because they don’t get enough clitoral stimulation. She recommends We-Vibe by Tango for that. And, with the penis ring and the mini-vibe couples are good to go.
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