Did you know your hands can be equally as good as your penis at giving pleasure to your woman? That is, of course, if used correctly. So, let’s talk about how to pleasure your lady with your fingers and hands.
No matter how incredible you might be with your cock, you’d wanna know how to give her an orgasm with just your hands. Maybe, your boner needs a break after the first or the second round, while she is all hot and bothered. Or, maybe you two are in your car outside and feeling a little naughty. Whatever the scenario, a man who knows how to pleasure his woman with more than his penis is a man a woman would definitely want to keep.
Marni Kinrys, a professional wing girl and the founder of the Wing Girl Method, gives us advice on how to properly finger our ladies. So, let’s get started.
Step #1 – Hygiene.
Before you even get close to touching your woman, make sure your hands are clean, and your nails are trimmed and filed. You don’t want her walking away with possible cuts or infection. It’s also important to note that if you insert your finger in her anus, that finger should not touch her pussy until cleaned with soap. There is a very high possibility of her getting an infection, if you do not follow this basic protocol. Be mindful of where your fingers are going and make sure they are clean!
Now that we have covered the hygiene, let’s get into the juicy stuff.
Step #2 – Go slow and touch softly.
A woman’s vagina is like a delicate flower that needs special attention and gentleness to open up and bloom. Women are different than men, as in they can’t dive right in the sexual act unless they are properly stimulated.
This step is all about prepping a woman so that she is ready for your fingers. Your hands don’t come close to her vagina until you have carefully prepped and teased her entire body. Marni calls this “teasing the V”. And, the more you invest in the foreplay, the more intense her orgasm is going to be.
Picture yourself holding a flower in your hand. You touch the outside of the petals first, gently caressing them, allowing her to open up at her own pace. Do not rush this process, and make sure you are rubbing her with the pads of your fingers and never the tips. You want this to be a pleasurable experience and not a painful one. Once you feel her starting to get wet, you move to –
Step #3 – Raking.
Once you prepped a woman, and she is wet and ready for you, it’s time to start raking. Using your fingers, you rake her juices in upper motion from bottom to top where her clitoris is. Again, using the pads of your fingers with a light pressure. After about five or ten strokes, slowly enter one finger inside of her and make sure your finger is wet. NEVER enter a woman with a dry object even if she is wet inside.
Don’t use your fingers like a dildo or a penis.
Her orgasm is achieved because she is stimulated by a rhythmic motion.
You can go back and forth from her vagina to her clitoris several times, and pay attention to her reactions. If you notice she was reacting more when you touched her clitoris, zone in on that clit!
Go in slow circular motions with moderate pressure and slowly increase the speed as she gets more aroused.
If she was more excited when you inserted your fingers, put them back in and go to –
Step #4 – Hitting the G-Spot, the deep spot, and the clitoris.
The G-spot is located about two to three inches inside of her vagina at the front wall. Its texture is pretty rigid like that of a walnut’s.
The deep spot is also located at the front wall, but a little deeper inside the vagina. Its texture is completely smooth.
Start slowly and softly, and build yourself up to a hand thrust. Pay attention to her reactions, for they tell you when you are hitting the right spots.
What you can also do is stimulate her clitoris with your other hand while you are working her vagina. Try stroking and penetrating with different rhythms, though. You don’t want to be automating the same movement with both hands.
For more details on this, check out the video below: