Welcome to the sex talk, ladies and gentlemen. The famous YouTuber Thomas “TomSka” Ridgewell, who has around 5M subscribers on his channel, shares all the basics you need to know about sex. If you are a virgin, this video is something you should be watching. Even if you have been dancing horizontal tangoes for awhile, you might find quite a few new information, so keep on reading, folks.
Part One. The Bits.
As you might or mightn’t already know, sex is (usually) when people use their genitals to experience the bliss that beggars description. If you are born with a penis, your genitals are composed of glands/head, urethra, shaft, and testicles. Penises come in all different shapes, and sizes. They stand to attention when excited – the process known as erection – and sleep it out the rest of the time. Testicles are where the sperm is made, and the sperm is what makes babies when it successfully fertilizes a female egg.
Now, if you are born with a vagina, your genitals consist of a clitoris, labia major, labia minor, urethra, and vagina. Much like penises, they come in a wide range of shapes and sizes. On top of naturally cleaning themselves out once a month when not pregnant – the process, known as menstruation – a vagina can also make itself wet when in the mood for sex. When semen, which contains sperm, enters a vagina, chances are that the woman will get pregnant, if some form of protection is not used.
Moving up the body, ladies also have breasts. The ring of pigmented skin surrounding a nipple is called areola, and the nipple… well, most likely you know what that is. If not, check out the video below for a visual demonstration. Don’t get any ideas, though. You are not going to see real boobies in the video. Breasts also come in all different shapes and sizes. Furthermore, milk comes out of them when you have a baby, as is the typical characteristic of any mammal.
Part Two. Sexuality.
There are so many different types of sexual orientation that the topic needs its separate post. But, to put it briefly, heterosexuality is when people of the opposite genders are attracted to one another. Homosexuality is a sexual attraction to the same gender. Bisexuality is a sexual attraction toward both female and male. Asexuality is when a person is not sexually attracted to anyone. Pansexuality, also known as omnisexuality, is when a person is attracted to all forms of gender identities. And, then there are gender identities, which is completely different from sexuality.
Part Three. Virginity.
When it comes to the decision about when you should start having sex, there are two things you should take into consideration:
1. The Law.
Depending on where you live, the age at which you can start having sex, varies. For example, the age of consent in the United Kingdom is 16, while in the United States it’s 18. Always be informed of the laws in your country, and follow them no matter what.
2. You Need To Be Ready.
Don’t let anyone pressure you into losing your virginity, or having sex for that matter. You are the one who decides when you want to do it. What happens to your body should be your choice and yours alone.
Part Four. Sex.
There are a lot of ways to have sex, with countless positions available in Kama Sutra and vast sex ED content available online, some of which don’t necessarily involve the contact of a genital to a genital. It’s extremely important to use protection to not end up with a baby when you are not ready for a family, and to not end up having to go through an abortion. Contraceptive pills and implants are used to prevent conception, in other words, fertilization. But, they do not protect you from STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), which is why a condom is your best pal. Some STDs are curable, while others can potentially kill you, so be very careful about who you sleep with, and have condoms with you at all times.
Part Five. Rape.
Remember this clearly – you NEVER have to do anything you don’t want to do. You are NEVER obliged to sleep with someone, even if that person is already your partner. Any type of sexual activity where someone has not given their consent or has REVOKED it is sexual assault or rape. And, in case you were wondering about consent – consent is a willing, sober, and continuous ‘YES’.
Part Six. Shame.
There are a lot of ways of having sex and getting kinky with your partner. As long as you are abiding by the law of the land, and both you and the other person are into it, then it’s all good. Everyone has different likes and preferences, so don’t ever feel ashamed of your sexual fantasies. What you do with your body is your business, and what you do with someone else is between you and them alone.
Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!